Mama,
I’m going to tell you right now why you’re stuck and frustrated with your weight loss. Your results aren’t matching up to your expectations. It’s really simple, but knowing that doesn’t fix things. I want to tell you a story about my daughter that can help put this in perspective for you.
Four years ago, my daughter spent eight weeks of her summer vacation going to an intense soccer camp. She has been playing soccer almost her whole life, but she’s always had to work at it. It hasn’t been something that has just come easily to her.
She spent her summer working incredibly hard to become a better soccer player. While a lot of her teammates and friends went on vacations or just had a fun summer, Kileigh was practicing. At the end of the summer, her team did a fundraiser where they had to make 25 goals.
Kileigh had been practicing for this, but when it was her turn, she only made 13 of the 25 goals. And as she was setting up for the next kick after missing a few, I could see on her face that she felt completely defeated.
When we got in the car, she broke down. She thought the eight weeks of soccer camps should have set her up for success. She wanted all the skills to be there after she devoted hours and hours to practicing while her friends were having fun. She thought she deserved to excel since she put in the work.
And I knew exactly how she felt and I could almost hear and feel all the negative self-talk that was running through her head because I’ve experienced that too. That feeling of frustration and disappointment when you’ve worked so hard for something and you don’t get it. You think: “I’m a failure.” “Why can’t I do this?” “I’m broken.”
She was learning, even though she didn’t realize it then, that sometimes our expectations don’t line up with reality. The results of our hard work don’t always show up when we want them to.
As a mom, it broke my heart to watch her learn this lesson. It’s a lesson I’ve had to learn and a lesson I watch mamas in my Macros Made Easy program learn all the time. Even when we do everything right, and put in the work, sometimes our expectations don’t match our reality.
After she vented to me, I explained to her that just because she didn’t get the outcome she wanted, it didn’t mean it wasn’t coming. You can’t stop if you still want that outcome.
Mama, if you’re feeling stuck and frustrated in your weight loss, then you’re probably at the same point Kileigh was. Your expectations simply aren’t matching where you’re at right now and it’s causing you pain.
The solution isn’t to quit or to give up. The solution is to change your expectations. Today I’m going to show you the two places to change your expectations so that you can continue pursuing a healthy life.
For years and years, I was told that to achieve a goal, you have to set a timeline or a deadline. I used to think that was so important to goal setting. However, after being a nutrition coach for over eight years, I’ve realized that time-specific goals don’t help you reach your health goals! They just frustrate you!
Because you can’t put a timeline on your health. There is no end point to healthy living! If you don’t drop five lbs in two weeks, it’s not that you’re never going to drop the five pounds, it’s just that it hasn’t happened yet.
Too often, when we feel like we aren’t making progress fast enough, we have the urge to try something different or to give up completely. But that’s not how changing habits works! It’s not how losing weight works. And it’s not how healthy living works.
The only way to get through this is to let go of the time limit you put on yourself.
But that’s easier said, than done, right? This is why you have to work on your mindset so much when you’re on a health and weight loss journey!
There is one tiny, simple tool you can use when you feel like things are taking longer than you want and it’s using the word yet.
I’ve eaten healthy all week but I haven’t lost any weight…YET.
I’ve been working for eight weeks but I haven’t hit my goal…YET.
Using the word yet tells your brain that even though you have a goal that you’re working on and you haven’t reached it, it doesn’t mean your efforts are in vain. It also doesn’t mean that you’re giving up on your goals.
The words we use when we talk to ourselves matter so, so much. Make sure that you’re supporting yourself by speaking encouraging words, especially when you’re feeling stuck or frustrated.
Mama, I have to drop a truth bomb on you. It’s a frustrating one so be prepared. Here it is: You can’t control what the scale says.
You just can’t.
No matter how well you eat or how much you exercise, you are not in control of what the scale says in the morning.
There are too many things that factor into weight for you to control it. These are just a few of the things that contribute to your weight:
Not to mention, just how finicky scales can be! Maybe it got bumped and that showed up as a two-pound increase in your weight. It’s hard to know exactly how much you actually weigh when you hop on the scale.
That being said, you are in control of how well you eat or how much you exercise! You’re in control of when you go to bed and when you wake up. You’re in control of how much water your drink.
There are so many aspects of your health that you are in control of and when you stay consistent with the habits that lead to fat loss and muscle gain, you’ll eventually see the results show up on the scale! It’s impossible to do everything “right’ and not see them, I promise.
When you’re playing the expectations game, you have to let go of what you can’t control and shift your focus to what you can control.
The good news is that I can show you how to control the general direction of the scale. I learned how to control my weight through macro tracking.
Macro tracking taught me how to balance my food to maintain my weight, increase muscle, or lose fat. It has been one of the most empowering things I’ve ever done for myself! Taking the time and the money to learn and understand how food works with my body is by far the best investment I’ve ever made for myself or my family.
And now, I’m teaching other busy mamas on the go how to balance their food so that they can control if the scale goes up or down and, most importantly, how to maintain their weight.
If you’re feeling stuck and frustrated with your health or weight loss, then I know, from experience, that this is something you need to invest in too.
I want to come back to the story that I told you about my daughter Kiliegh. She put in the work that summer, and she didn’t quite get the results she wanted. But she didn’t stop there. She has spent the past three years continuing to learn, to practice what her coaches are teaching her, and she’s worked incredibly hard on her mindset.
And this year, she tried out for a really exclusive team and she made it. She was a leader on her team this past year. Everything she worked so hard for, is finally coming true.
Mama, don’t let one week, one month or one year’s lack of results stop you from going after what you want: a healthy life. My program is only 12 weeks long. It’s not meant for you to reach all of your goals in that time. It is meant to set you up with the skill, tools and knowledge to get you started.
Once the program ends, you keep going. It’s a sustainable way of living that you can keep doing after the 12 weeks are up. And if you do keep going, you’ll get to your goals. You’ll see the big results. And if you do need me, I’m always there to help you out!
Mama, you have the power to change your health and your life. You just have to take the first step. Schedule a free discovery call and take control of your health once and for all. Schedule a Free Discovery Session here: http://bit.ly/DiscoverySessionKmore
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