Welcome to another where we explore the challenges and triumphs of motherhood and find balance in our lives with our health and weight loss and nutrition.
In today's episode/ session it's all about breaking free from the Martyr Mom mentality and prioritizing your needs as a mother.
A few years back, I had a client named Suzanne who struggled with guilt when it came to spending money on herself. She was caught in the cycle of Martyr Mom syndrome, sacrificing her own needs to make others happy. Suzanne's story is a powerful example of the transformation that can happen when we prioritize self-care.
So, what is Martyr Mom syndrome? It's when you give up everything for your kids, spouse, or others, neglecting your own well-being. Suzanne, like many others, grew up witnessing the women in her family selflessly giving everything they had. It took joining my program for Suzanne to realize that neglecting her own needs was affecting her health, particularly her struggle with weight.
In an honest moment I had with Suzanne and with her permission I will share what she told me she said: "I've had so many mind-blowing realizations about how I treated myself. The shift I've made in just a few weeks has not only helped me but improved my relationships because I'm giving to myself as well."
Suzanne's experience highlights the importance of letting go of the Martyr Mom mentality. It's not about sacrificing everything; it's about finding a balance that benefits both you and your family.
Martyr moms often wear themselves down, feeling unappreciated and overwhelmed.
Which then makes us bitter and cranky with the people we want to help and love on and please the most.
Instead of being a martyr mom, it's crucial to put your needs at the top of your list. Think of it like the safety instructions on an airplane – secure your oxygen mask first before helping others. You can't care for your family if you're running on empty.
I want to ask you a question…Have you ever considered what your needs are? Have you ever asked yourself this question or more importantly have you taken the time to listen? When we don’t know we do things we don’t even realize we are doing to cope when our own needs are not being met. We Self-soothing with food or shopping or we yell and allow bursts of anger to come up so that we can feel temporary relief. My sweet friend if that is you it's time to address the root problems.
How? Well let’s focus on three key areas: nutrition, mindset, and physical health.
Host: Now, let's delve deeper into the three key areas that can truly transform your life when you prioritize them: nutrition, mindset, and physical health.
When we talk about nutrition, we're not advocating for strict diets or deprivation. Instead, it's about understanding what your body needs to function optimally. Consider it as providing the right fuel for your engine. Are you nourishing yourself with wholesome, nutrient-rich foods that sustain your energy throughout the day? Making informed choices about what you eat can have a profound impact on your overall well-being. Are you eating too much, too little? Do you know or are you in survival mode and eating the scraps before the next task? In my macros made easy program we get to the nitty gritty on this so you know for certain you are showing up in big easy for yourself ways that will have a long-lasting effect on your health.
Mindset: Shifting Perspectives**
Your mindset plays a crucial role in how you navigate the challenges of motherhood. It's not just about positive thinking but understanding and reshaping deep-seated beliefs. Many mamas, like myself and Suzanne, used to self-soothe with temporary fixes like food or shopping. Shifting your mindset involves addressing the root problems, embracing self-compassion, and fostering a positive outlook on your journey to well-being. Having tools to bring yourself back to base when old patterns creep in is key but also having deep compassion for yourself when you are in the rut and trying to figure it out
Physical health extends beyond just the number on the scale. It's about embracing a lifestyle that promotes strength, vitality, and longevity. Prioritizing sleep, hydration, and regular exercise are foundational elements. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup. Taking care of your physical health ensures you have the energy, STRENGTH and resilience to tackle the demands of motherhood.
The synergy of these three areas creates a holistic approach to self-care, allowing you to thrive as a mama while setting an empowering example for your family
So, whether it's making mindful choices in your diet, reshaping your perspective, or investing time in your physical health, know that each step you take is a powerful stride toward becoming the best version of yourself.
Investing time and effort into understanding these areas can lead to transformative changes. I've been there myself – from a run-down mom surviving on dino nuggets to a strong mama prioritizing sleep and water ans self awareness.
Taking care of yourself has a ripple effect on your family. When you prioritize your health, you set an example for your children and create a positive shift in your family dynamics.
Chelsea: "My entire demeanor has changed, everything has been more positive. My husband noticed a shift in my energy and attitude. He said, 'Babe, I think you need to keep going. Let's do it!'"
Our families want us to be happy and love ourselves. It's not usually them stopping us; it's often our own limiting beliefs. It's time to say yes, give ourselves permission to invest in our health, and seek support if needed.
If you're struggling and need guidance, consider investing in a coach. I had my own coach, and it changed everything for me. Now, I offer the Macros Made Easy program to address the unique challenges busy mamas face.
Thank you for joining us on this journey to prioritize self-care and break free from the Martyr Mom mentality. If you're ready to learn what healthy looks like for you, schedule a Healthy Mama Blueprint Call. Until I see ya next week be well and I’ll chat with ya soon!
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